In the L.A. Times article on July 22, 2002, in what is believed to be one the first study of its kind, a team of sociologists, psychologists and scholars compared unhappily married people who divorced to unhappily married who stayed together.
Using a 12-question survey that measured psychological and emotional well being, the researchers found that, on average, unhappily married people who divorced were no happier and no less depressed than unhappily married people who stayed the conjugal course (stayed together).
Further, they had no greater self-esteem or sense of personal mastery.
About 19% of unhappy spouses who divorced or separated were happily remarried 5 years later, but they were no happier, on average, than those who stayed married.
Two-thirds of unhappily married spouses who hung in there described themselves as happily married five years later. Perhaps most striking, 80% of marriages in deepest turmoil turned around five years later, with the unhappy spouse reportedly very happy.
This is opposed to the conventional belief that once a marriage is down, it is done.
So there is a chance of bouncing back with the marriage relationship.
Bottom line: if your marriage has problems both parties must seek assistance binding your relationship back together. It takes lots of work. The grass may be greener on the
other side but it is always just as hard to cut.
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