Often in divorce children become a bartering tool and their well being gets lost in the game of tug-of-war. Children often experience huge emotional roller coaster and, sometimes, their views on their own relationships are affected.

Bottom-line is to make sure the children get the help and support they need from a pre-screened competent therapist so that they can better handle their emotions. There is no substitute for guidance and support for children undergoing separation of the family unit.

Too often children are used as a bargaining chip. Just don't do it! Don't settle for an unfair agreement in your divorce just because your spouse is threatening to take the children.

• Have the court issue temporary orders regarding custody, visitation and child support.
• The usual amount of child support is about one-half of what they will need.
• Make sure medical insurance if part of your support order.
• Work hard for the emotional balance of your children of all ages.
• Don't make children take sides, and keep them informed, as they are very perceptive.
• Watch out for drastic changes in your child's behavior and if perceived get them help.

If you cannot afford an attorney Mr. Radoff will be happy to prepare the necessary documents for you to represent yourself and provide you with the legal advice you need in any court in California.

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